Re: Happy Birthday Constance

Guest on Tue Dec 27, 2011 8:59 am

Glad you liked it cat

tigerlily on Sun Jan 01, 2012 7:01 pm

Happy belated birthday Constance....and happy New Year as well Very Happy

Constance wrote:
I am reading Jeannette Wall's new book "Half Broke Horses." I highly recommend her autobiography of growing up with very strange parents called "The Glass Castle."

I recently read both of these books and highly recommend them also. Half Broke Horses gives a bit of insight into the influences on Jeannette's mom while growing up, and somewhat sheds light on her later parenting skills that Jeannette writes about in The Glass Castle.

Constance on Mon Jan 02, 2012 1:21 am

I agree, tigerlily! Both of them are amazing books. I've read The Glass Castle twice.

tatiana on Mon Jan 02, 2012 9:00 am

happy belated birthday Constance
may you have many many more..... sunny

tatiana on Mon Jan 02, 2012 9:09 am

Constance wrote:Thanks, La Rue!

We celebrated Julia's 9th birthday on the 15th. The day before we made a big sheet of brownies, cut them into 24 pieces, bagged each up, and got them ready for her to take to school the next day.

On her birthday she asked me, "Does my birth family remember me?" Cuts to the heart. Occasionally she will ask, "Why didn't my birth mother want me...why did she leave me in a train station?"

What must it feel like to know you were abandonned as a child?

Madeleine and Elisabeth have never asked questions and express no interest in their birth families, but Julia is different.

I tell her that of course her birth family loved her and wanted to keep her but that they couldn't. The standard story of adoptive families from China. And it is what most adoptive parents believe. But I am in the minority. I think the birth families were callous to leave the children. Perhaps the mothers were coerced by inlaws or the husband. But by and large, I hold them all accountable for giving up their children.

Constance i might know what it is like
we have similar questions here occasionally,
except this is from the child of an overdose victim...same question...didn't the parent love me enough?

Constance on Mon Jan 02, 2012 1:34 pm

Thank you for the birthday wishes tigerlily and tats!

I had one glass of wine on xmas eve, one glass on Christmas Day, and nothing on New Year's Eve or day.

I'm not trying to be particularly abstemious. Just not into the taste anymore. 6 months of this.Oh, I'll take a sip from Tom's glass from time to time but don't want my own glass. My two glasses at Christmas were unusual Oh yes, had one on Thanksgiving,too.

Glad to lose the calories.

blue moon on Wed Jan 11, 2012 5:25 am

Hello Constance. I'm sorry this greeting is so late, but I hope you had a lovely birthday.

I've read your posts ^^ and I want you to know you have my heartfelt respect for making a loving home for your daughters. Many kids who remain in families where they aren't wanted go through life with the unshakeable feeling of being unwanted and unworthy clinging to them like mould...that will never happen to your girls.

...and merry Christmas I love you

, and a very happy new year

Constance on Wed Jan 11, 2012 1:14 pm

Thank you, Moonie! My husband and I are the lucky ones.

Glad to see you back at ATU. Hope your two week respite went well!